5 surprising things that men find unattractive

It is quite logical that your (potential) partner wants you to be over your ex. However, constantly talking badly about him is not the most elegant way to clarify this. If your ex is always (negatively) the topic of conversation, it shows, on the one hand, that you are probably still fixated on him. On the other hand, this quirk casts a bad light on your character. Men quickly think you are spiteful and childish - and bitchy to boot. If the subject of ex-partners comes up, keep it short and stay positive! Leave the past in the past and rather look forward to the future.

A "secret" dating rule is that if you act like you're hard to get, his interest in you increases. This is true - but only up to a point. The rule is: Be independent, assertive, and still show interest. Pretending to be unavailable and disinterested quickly has the opposite effect. And if you play games, you'll quickly end up in a kindergarten relationship.

Many children's fairy tales have suggested to us for years that men are attracted to women who need help. But miming the victim so he can play the hero probably won't work in the long run. Especially at the beginning of a relationship (or when dating), you should first sort out deeper issues with yourself, friends, or family. Nevertheless, you can, of course, confide in the man about your problems. With drama, on the other hand, you will only scare him away.

Yes, men like it when a woman takes care of herself. But men are even more into naturalness! In fact, survey results from Pantene show that 78 percent of men are attracted to women with healthy hair - but they find overstyled hairstyles unattractive. Yet men are more into natural waves or light curls rather than straightened hair. Even more exciting, about 75 percent of men said a woman's hair is the first thing they notice.

When it comes to makeup, men also go for natural. A study in the Quarterly Journal of Experimental Psychology found that women use too much makeup and believe that men find that attractive. In fact, it tends to be off-putting. So: less really is more.

Men find it - just like us, women, the other way around - pretty unexciting when you constantly say "yes" and "amen". It's not always easy to say what you really think - especially to avoid conflict. But that shows your lack of openness, honesty, and authenticity. In this regard, voicing your own opinion helps spark interesting discussions and strengthen the bond between you and the man. After all, the key to a good and long relationship is honesty and being yourself. After all, your (potential) partner is not looking for a female version of himself. So have the guts!